Guidelines That Ensure Improvement

Have you ever wanted things to get better?  Alan sure does.  If fact when he heard about Stever Robbins new book, “9 Steps To Work Less and Do More”, he ordered copies for his entire company.  He really wants to ensure that everyone improves.  Max and Gail also want to do better.  For years they have read every diet book published.  This time they want to ensure weight-loss success so they hired a personal trainer.  When we want improvement, WE need to improve right?

There is a ton of information and collected knowledge about the do’s and don’ts of losing weight.  Max and Gail have been apt students for decades.  That extra weight they carry has been with them for decades too.  This time they are determined to halt all their backslides and end those years of failed efforts.  Now they have a personal trainer to keep them from cheating on their diet and guarantee daily workout routines.  Success and improvement seem assured.

Alan has always bent over backwards for his people.  He’s provided medical benefits, a company car and even agreed to their flexible schedule demands.  Yet, for all the concessions he’s given, Alan feels shortchanged.  What he really wants from his people is better productivity so profits improve.  Stever Robbins’ book provides a wealth of resources in 9 easy steps so success and improvement seem assured.

Oops!  Haven’t we all experienced this set up before?  You know, when we get that expert, that professional to lead us to the promised land.  We start off all excited and confident that this time will be different.  We have all the intentions to follow whatever the program or trainer recommends.  Then what happens?  WE begin to erode the process.  WE let other demands and conflicts alter our priorities so WE neglect our promises and intentions.  A personal trainer does their job.  However, WE quit ours.

After a lifetime of helping people deliver on their goals and promises to improve, I want to share my three Movve™ Guidelines.   This touchstone keeps people on track.  The first is, “It’s OK to Be Uncomfortable.” It’s not the facts, stats or science that cause Max and Gail to slide away from their personal trainer’s regimen.  It’s that “F” word.  I know a lot of educated people don’t like to admit the power of the “F” word, but it’s the number one reason why information and knowledge fail.  FEELINGS.  Think about it.  The way we feel about the influence of a good book, program or trainer ignites our action to sign up and commit to change and improvement.

It’s also true that different feelings we get from other situations, people and stress get us to circumvent and evade our commitment to improve.  Uncomfortable feelings ignite excuses like, “Maybe tomorrow,” “I’ve got no time today” or “Other things are getting in my way.” When circumstances, demands and life make us uncomfortable, we abandon improvement.  After all, feelings drive actions.

The second Movve™ Guideline is “Don’t Band-aide.” Rescuing or “band-aiding” is what we do when we feel uncomfortable.  This is what gives voice to those excuses we utter that allow us to escape plans and promises.  It is a way out of improvement and a loophole in any commitment we make.  Feelings steer our ship.  When we feel anxiety, we trigger this exit from accountability.  We do it for ourselves and others.  So when someone gets uncomfortable, we “protect” them by band-aiding and letting them off the hook.  “Relax, I’ll do it for you” or “Don’t worry, I’ll take care of it,‘ can easily flow out of a band-aider’s mouth.

So when a family member, co-worker or friend is caught in an uncomfortable situation, we don our superman cape and come to the rescue.  Band-aiding gives us the illusion we are “helping” someone because no one really likes to be uncomfortable.  It gives us the false mantle of hero.  Realistically though, band-aiding negates someone’s growth and improvement because we take away their opportunity to overcome adversity.  We get in the way of someone learning how to deal with uncomfortable feelings.  In the long run, we don’t help them, we hurt them.

All these guidelines work quite effectively because of the third Movve™ Guideline.  “It’s OK to Ask for Help.” When you have your goal in mind, that first guideline ignites emotional intelligence and gives you permission to stay on course.  The second guideline reinforces the first one, and ushers in the third which gives you the resilience to endure and succeed.  “It’s OK to Ask for Help” means you will continue your pursuit of improvement because teamwork supports and sustains efforts.

We don’t have all the answers but we want improvement and success.  Applying knowledge from books like “9 Steps To Work Less and Do More”, can help when you keep your eye on your goal and live these Movve™ Guidelines.

Movve loge EliteMOVVE™ is the procedural application of Elite Motivation.  Why elite motivation?  Well since feelings drive all thoughts, attitudes and behaviors, isn’t it important to use emotionally intelligent communication practices that motivate us in the pursuit and achievement of our goals?  So to get the steering wheel guidelines of emotional smarts, get on the MOVVE™ with Elite Motivation!

Book Cover5Alan has adopted all three so his business has a brighter future because he band-aides no more.  It’s OK to Be Uncomfortable, Don’t Band-aide and It’s OK to Ask for Help guides emotional smarts into your plans, promises and goals.  Improvement is ensured!

My first book, Elite Motivation, can be found on Kindle and Amazon.  Follow this link to find out about it:

Movve Book coverMy Guidebook, which offers a graphic filled step-by-step format, can also be found on Amazon and Kindle.  Here’s the link:  MOVVE – The Five Keys of Elite Motivation

Contact Jamie Cox M.Ed., (509) 396-4307, email: or at our website:  Discover MOVVE™ our procedural application of Elite Motivation that walks the talk of messages, information and knowledge.





7 Responses to “Guidelines That Ensure Improvement”

  1. Anonymous says:

    Good post, useful blog, thank you for your work. Keep on, guys!

  2. Hickock359 says:

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